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What a shock you may feel when you first learn you have a chronic disease, or realize you have a chronic disability – “chronic” meaning that it goes on and on for more than a year. Why me? There may be nothing that can explain why you developed the condition, or perhaps you were exposed to something that caused or contributed to your disease, or maybe the illness runs in your family.

What a joy to learn that focusing on growing our strengths – rather than overcoming our weaknesses – is gaining ground. When I was a child, the emphasis from parents and teachers was that we needed to overcome our weaknesses, and I carried that idea far into my adult years. Fortunately, times are changing. At least two spheres of influence have been challenging that notion, and I feel giddy with delight for the individual and social transformations this can bring.

I so enjoyed an afternoon of conversation recently. Four of us sat together at a small table at a community event and just talked and talked, for the pure pleasure of it. It didn’t matter that I was the relative newbie (the three of them already knew each other). By the end of the afternoon we had gotten to know each other better, and a warm sense of belonging filled my soul.  

How often do you get trapped into overthinking, which Sonja Lyubomirsky describes as “thinking too much, needlessly, passively, endlessly, and excessively pondering the meanings, causes, and consequences of your character, your feelings, and your problems”.  The good news is that she identifies practical, concrete strategies you yourself can use to put an end to negative overthinking and anxious rumination.