Full and complex social networks help to ease the loneliness of widowhood. Having more than one person in our lives to meet a variety of social needs builds in resilience, to better cope not only with widowhood but also with loneliness after divorce and separation.
Transition to retirement is less traumatic if you plan ahead to have purpose and meaning in your life in later years. Even if you’re already retired, it’s not too late to make plans for your future.
What are your daydreams about? Where do you focus your attention? What inspires you to spend your energy on?
A good place to start this quest is with your values, because anything you do that matches your values will bring meaning and purpose to your life.
Buttock muscles are more important than abdominals for ease of standing – assuming yours are strong enough. Strong legs, ankles, and feet also play a role. With so much sitting nowadays, any length of standing leads to sore backs for many people, often because their buttocks aren't doing enough to properly align the pelvis.
As I mentioned last week, personality factors do not vary across all levels of loneliness (Cacioppo et al., 2006). A lonely person is just as likely as a nonlonely person to exhibit
- emotional stability
- surgency (level of positive affect)
Taking time each day to write two pages about whatever is on your mind can be a real eye-opener. This morning I ran across some journaling I did nine years ago. I was amazed to discover that things that troubled me then have been resolved, many of my intentions back then have come to pass, and some things still need addressing!
Here’s the thing. Whatever spews out of your mind day after day, day after day, starts to show patterns in your thinking.